“Love is not looking for the perfect person, but learning to appreciate the imperfect object with perfect eyes.” This proverb of Somerset Mao Mu, an English writer, illuminates our thinking about the nature of love like a candle. In the long journey of sexual intercourse, we will always meet all kinds of challenges, and only by mastering the proper way to get along can love become more mellow in the process of time. So what kind of relationship mode can make the relationship between men and women reach a “comfortable” state? Let’s explore the mystery together.
Sincere communication is the cornerstone of building a bridge between hearts. Communication, like a flowing stream, needs to let each other’s feelings, thoughts and expectations flow naturally. When we share the trivial things in life honestly, like putting starlight in a glass bottle, and at the same time listen to the deep needs in each other’s words with a focused attitude, trust can take root in the dialogue. This kind of communication is not a unilateral talk, but a two-way giving and receiving-spreading your dreams and fears in front of each other, and also providing the other party with a space to express themselves. When the two sides see the beauty of each other’s differences in resonance, emotions will grow like vines and grow stronger and stronger under the nourishment of understanding and care.
Maintaining a comfortable relationship also requires respect for each other’s individuality and space. Everything in the world has a unique trajectory, and people need to keep their own world when they get along. Giving each other the freedom to pursue their dreams and accepting their different choices and preferences is like injecting fresh air into the relationship and keeping the emotional garden alive all the time. This kind of respect is not alienation, but keeping the two sides true in the soil of equality-allowing each other to have independent thinking mode, unique life rhythm and different values, but making the relationship as natural as flowing water. When two people can snuggle up to each other and bloom separately in each other’s world, they can draw the strength of growth in complementarity and join hands to move towards a broader world.